QUOTE (anng @ Sep 14 2008, 08:00 AM)

I am the kind of person that will tell you straight and plain if I think you are rude, stupid or whatever. But I have found that being white and in the minority makes it harder for a black person to accept that I am telling them this not based on the colour of their skin, but on the simple fact that they have done something that genuinely offended me. I've also found that there is a great deal of what we call here "reverse racism" - black people being prejudiced towards people of their own race based on the lightness or darkness of their skin colour. It is considered to be a social feather in the cap for a really dark skinned man to marry a woman who is lighter skinned than himself, he is said to be trying to "lighten his colour" - a reference to the possibility that his children will be born lighter than himself, although this is not always the case of course. Some of the kids may be darker some lighter. And of course, it is the coup de grace if a black man marries a white woman!
And the legend of Willie Lynch persist to this day. He originated the divide and conquer hierarchy of slaves. Put the lighter skinned slaves in the house and leave the darker ones in the shed. It was also demonstrated by many scientist around the word (from European ancestry) through their pseudo-science in an attempt to prove white superiority. It is seen throught Latin America as well... lighter (
fair) skin versus dark (unfair) skin. It plays in the
good (straight) hair versus
bad (kinky) hair perceptions. Because of all this, a lot of black people are constantly on the defense (conscious or subconsciously) knowing their skin color has been leveraged against them. It often resonates in defensive interactions with
the other believing that negativity coming from
the other might be due to skin color (race).
So, that obstacle is usually overcome after friendship is established.
QUOTE (MikeK @ Sep 14 2008, 08:22 AM)

The profound collective resentment of Whites in the audience response to these comments, which refer to White people -- not White racism, is unmistakably clear and while most of it does not rise to the level of hatred and is presumably negotiable pending closer assessment of individual Whites, the existence of this collective resentment is sufficient to discourage Whites who are aware of it from pursuing closer relationships with individual Blacks.
It is not a resentment of whites... it is a resentment of the unjust treatment experienced in white dominant culture. Only in a white dominated culture do you have "ethnic" aisles in a supermarket, magazines covered in perceived
white beauty and a borrage of negative depictions night after night of ethnic/racial minorities on the news without any explanation of the injustices that cause such behavior. I hate to say it, but people enjoy listening to a person that can flip a painful situation into a funny situation. Dave Chappelle was a supreme intellectual at acheiving this through his stand-up and comedy sketches... The problem is that "outsiders" often don't see what the underlying corollary is to interaction with dominant society.
We have jokes about how white people dance, etc. which in the end perpetuates rhythmic stereotypes about black people... but also is a chance to hear somebody say on a loud speaker "Hey, there's something positive about us... even though all we see is negative everyday."
Chappelle would do a standup sketch about driving around in his car with his white friend Chip and telling all the crazy stuff Chip gets away with around the police. He also did a sketch about how the media (factually) proclaims the genius of a white kid that escaped from her attackers after a couple of weeks, but the story about the black child that was kidnapped and escaped that same day was burried. Or a (fact-based) sketch about the black kid that was play wrestling with a friend and the friend died and they wanted to lock the kid up for years.
Paul Mooney is an especially racially conscious comedian. Comedians are comedians because they take you to the edge of acceptable dialogue and see how far they can push the envelope. He had a stand up joke where he would say "I say (n-word) every day, it keeps my teeth white."
This comedy could be considered racist if by any means it did keep down white people... but its actually a form of coping with dominant culture. If a gay person was telling jokes about heteros, this same characterization you attribute to these jokes would be lost. Any white person that claims a comedian's joke about white people makes them not want to interact with blacks on an individual basis is creating excuses. I would attribute it more to the characterization of blacks in films, "journalism," and music. Corporate America loves the Buck/Brute stereotypical illustration of black males; dangerously black and overly sex crazed.